In the Midst of Disappointment

Disappointment is a feeling that arises. When our hopes or expectations are not fulfilled. When we have joy and hope in our hearts about something. But the result turns out to be the opposite. Then the hurt that the heart feels is called disappointment. This is a common human emotion that everyone feels at some point in life.
Disappointment can be caused not only by big events. But also by small things. For example if we hope that a friend will support us but he does not. So then we feel disappointed. Similarly if we expect a good score in an exam and the result is not the same then our heart is broken.
Disappointment is mostly related to our expectations. The more hopes we have the more disappointment. We will have if they are not fulfilled. Sometimes we get disappointed with ourselves. When we fail in our own eyes.
This feeling can be temporary and sometimes it lasts for a long time. But one important thing is that disappointment also teaches us. It tells us where we went wrong. Where we need to change our thinking.

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In short disappointment is a part of life. And it also helps make us stronger if we understand it properly.

Yes… there was once such a disappointment that silenced me from the inside. Guys It was the first time in my life. That I did something from the heart for a special person. He was a very close friend of mine. And guys I always stood by him in his difficult times. I would take care of his little things consider his worries as my own.
One day a very important occasion came into his life. And he was very worried. Really guys I tried my best to help him. I even gave up one of my important things. Just so that he would be happy and his work would become his. At that time I felt that this is what friendship is… this is what a real relationship is.
A few days later when I had a difficult time of my own. I hoped that the same friend would support me just as I had supported him. I called him then messaged him and then waited. Every time. I looked at the phone screen to see if he would answer.
But that day he neither picked up nor answered the call. Later it turned out that he was busy. But the truth was that he had no time for me. It would not be easy for me to put into words what I felt at that moment. It felt like I was not important to anyone. Everything I did with my heart became meaningless. That night I took the phone in my hand and stared at the screen for a long time. Maybe he would answer. But nothing came.

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The disappointment was not that he did not answer. But that I was not the same for the one I considered mine. That day I learned one thing silently… That not every feeling is reciprocated as we give it. And this is what breaks the heart the most.

Dealing with disappointment is difficult. Because it directly affects our hearts and emotions. When our hopes are dashed we feel weak inside. It feels like we have lost something. Whether it is something or a relationship.
A major reason is that we place too much importance on our expectations. When they are not met. We find it difficult to accept reality. Humans naturally want success and happiness. So it is not easy to accept failure or disappointment.
Disappointment also makes us think negatively. We start doubting ourselves questioning our abilities. And sometimes considering ourselves inferior to others. All of these things make this feeling even deeper.
Some people suppress their disappointment and do not talk to anyone. Which makes the feeling even worse. While the truth is that if we share our feelings with someone our heart becomes lighter.

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That's why it seems difficult to deal with disappointment. But if we are patient and give time a chance. Everything gradually gets better.

To make disappointment less painful. We must first change our thinking. We must understand that not everything in life goes according to us. Sometimes we succeed and sometimes we fail and both are part of life.
One important thing is that we must keep our expectations close to reality. Instead of setting too many hopes. We should prepare ourselves for every possible outcome. This will help us not be so shocked if something goes wrong.
The second thing is that we must learn from our failures. If we consider every disappointment as a lesson. It can be beneficial for us. In this way we can make better decisions next time.
It is really important to express your feelings to friends. If we talk to our friends or family members. It reduces the burden on our hearts. Do not keep yourself alone because loneliness increases disappointment.
Apart from this participating in positive activities is also helpful. Such as exercising reading a book or learning a skill. This keeps the mind busy and reduces negative thoughts.

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Finally it is very important to believe in yourself. Disappointment is temporary. But if we don't give up. Better opportunities will surely come our way.

Thank you for being with me.

@m-princess

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