Friendship Palava

Do you think it's wise to have just one best friend, like someone has one wife? Explain

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No, I don't think it is wise to have just one best friend. Marriage is a lifetime something that is unique with commitment between two people who come together as husband and wife, while friendship works differently from the way marriage works. To this having just one best friend is good because it creates trust, loyalty, and deep understanding.

It is just that people have different personalities and strength which having just one best friend can be beneficial. Having more than one best friend may support me emotionally, and another may help me academically, financially, or professionally at my place of work. To me, what matters the most is the quality of the friendship that I have and not the number of friends that I have.

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If you have a best friend and your best friend has another friend whom he/she spends most of the time with, will you be jealous and discontinue? Explain

No, I would not discontinue my friendship with my best friend simply because my best friend spends more time with someone else. This is because it is normal for someone to feel jealous as we naturally value people who are important to us.

What matters is having a true friendship that is based on trust and understanding with different people. Instead of me becoming jealous, I would rather focus on maintaining a healthy relationship and appreciating the moments that we spend together. It may cause me unnecessary regret if I end a friendship like that because of a mere issue.

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Should a married man or woman end their friendships with people of the opposite sex after marriage? Give reasons for your answer

I don't believe that marriage should automatically end friendships with the opposite sex, especially with the people whom we know before getting married.

Friendship is not a bad thing. What is more important is maintaining respect, transparency, and healthy boundaries. If you're a married person, you should ensure that your friendship does not create suspicion, emotional dependency, or conflict within your marriage.

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Will you end a friendship if your friend keeps on making mistakes or doing things you don't like?

I will not end friendships immediately. This is because everyone makes mistakes, as no one is perfect. A good friend should be willing to correct, advise, and support a friend who is struggling.

However, if the person continues to engage in harmful behaviour, refuses correction, disrespects me, or negatively influences my life, then I may choose to distance myself from the person.

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What Is your advice to people with many friends?

Having many friends is good because it can be a blessing sometimes, but choosing the best friends wisely is very important.

• Focus on having quality friends rather than quantity of friends.
• Surround yourself with the people who encourage you positively
• Be with people who are trustworthy, honest, and supportive
• Don't reject your closest friends while trying to please everyone
• Set boundaries and avoid friendships that bring you negative vibes.