Friendship Palava
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Hi everyone! Welcome to my blog.
Friendship is a close relationship with one or more people. Often times, you'll hear people say things like she's my friend or we're a click of friends. Great! All these is based on how well you relate, care and trust the person that makes one a friend.
Do you think it's wise to have just one best friend like someone has one wife? Explain |
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I would not say it's bad to have just a friend or keep many. It's based on individuals choice or temperament. There are people who are good at keeping friends while some don't even have any friend. They only maintain friendship or relationship with their family members like siblings and cousins etc. If you ask me about the context of having just a friend or keeping more, I'll say it depends on ones choice. After all, some people don't even have people they call a friend due to some of the issues concerning trust and other person reasons due to past experiences or lessons learned.
If you have a best friend and your best friend has another friend whom he/she spends most of the time with, will you be jealous and discontinue? Explain |
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No need to be jealous. It's my choice to keep anyone as my friend but I'm not in any position to decide for the individual if he/she should keep or not keep friends with others. It's even wrong to stop people from having friends as they want.
I'll say, as long as the person is not my husband, no need for jealousy except there's more to such friendship.
Should a married man or woman end their friendships with people of the opposite sex after marriage? Give reasons for your answer |
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Yes, my husband should not keep any "close" friendship with any opposite sex as long as marriage with me is concerned. Casual friendship may not hold water, that's no issue. But you see what I hear people call the opposite sex "besties," I don't ever want it in a marriage relationship. I used to hear some people saying before their wives will hear of any of their plans, their besties would've have heard of it. Wow! Such female besties must have gone numb to be a friend with my husband. I don't and would not keep such friendship with a man reasons;
- That's giving room for suspicions even if there's no apron tied to such friendship.
- It brings conflict and misunderstanding in marriages.
- It leads to distrust in marriage relationship
- It reduces a spouse love for the other
Will you end a friendship if your friend keeps on making mistakes or doing things you don't like? |
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Yes, I will end any friendship with any friend who keep doing what I don't like especially if the person has some questionable characters. I have my own values, if you don't meet up my standards as a friend, I'll let you be especially if I've spoken to you about that matter and you keep doing yours. I've dropped a few friends because of some issues that didn't seemed well to me which they kept doing.
Honestly, no pride and no apology. Friendship may not be easy but you should not keep doing things I don't like or things that are below my values and you expect me to overlook them every time. No, I will end such friendship. Imagine having a friend who fights in the public or struggles for public food. Or maybe someone who is a kleptomaniac or maybe even a thief?
What Is your advice to people with many friends? |
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Having many friends is not a bad idea like I said from the beginning. Some people have the grace to keep many friends but my advice is, keep some friends at alms length. Not all friends should be close to you because in this life some things or matters in people's life should be kept in secret, but when you keep so many friends close you may not have your life. That's to say that some of your little secrets that should have been kept covered would be heard by everyone because of your closeness to many people whom you keep as friends.
In all of these, I can conclude that you should keep no enemy, make friends but your friends should be friends indeed not friends with benefits. Keeping a small circle is the best. All others are acquaintances, colleagues and neighbours. Always define your friendship with people.
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