An excellent article
An excellent article
There is a woman, her financial situation deteriorated due to her husband's illness, her husband was employed at a bakery. We friends helped her financially together. When her husband was admitted to the hospital, we also arranged to pay for his medicines and bills.
But during his treatment, he died of a heart attack. Somehow, she collected more money and gave it to her household needs, the people of the neighborhood and where she works provided financial support in a good way.
| In those days, I received a call that on the third day of Eid, it is my husband's fortieth birthday, so please help me in this regard. |
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I said, what kind of help is there on the fortieth? Tell me, we have to call the community, there will be a hundred people, arrange food and tents, etc. At first, I was surprised that first of all, we do not have the tradition of fortieth and tenth birthdays, then why is this woman in these circumstances in the cycles of fortieth birthdays, I explained that this is not necessary, you can still offer your soul alms by reading the Holy Quran yourself at home. When she refused, she apologized that she could not give money for at least this basic need and thing.
| But her house was fortieth, pots were cooked, tents were set up, arrangements for tea and sherbet were also made. When asked, she said that many people had given money, so she had reached fortieth! |
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| Couldn't she have spent two months comfortably instead of spending a lakh in one day? She could have spent, |
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| But she is sure that she will get so much more if she asks again, what is the earnings of her personal hard work? I was saddened to see this. When we help someone, how can they waste it in wasteful spending? |
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| Two years ago, a woman requested for her daughter's dowry, we collected money to get the girl's bedroom furniture and gave her the money, it is my habit that wherever I give donations, I myself go to see how it was used. |
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| Two days before the wedding, I went to her house with a friend. "I was surprised to see a food factory, sandwich maker, LED and many useless items in the house. |
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I told the woman that this much was not even in my dowry. If you had to take all this, why didn't you tell me first? This is all extravagance." The woman started making excuses and then, as usual, blamed the boy's demands. I said, "Let me talk to you, show me the demand list... Then things changed." These two incidents showed that people also cash in on poverty. One is a basic need, and the other is "luxury."
| When people see that they are getting assistance, they start opening more doors. They think that now the basic need is not a cot, but a double bed, not a pedestal fan, AC is very important. Some even die of starvation out of shame and some do not even fulfill their desires. |
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| If you are helping someone, do your due diligence. Instead of giving cash, fulfill the need that is being asked for with your own hands. Otherwise, they will take your kindness for granted and blow it on 40th, LED, and AC. Money is free, heart is merciless. |
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